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In online forums. I can be a bigmouth person, talking about everything, give the argue, not agree with others and many more I can do. I felt what I think in my head flown into my hand directly in Miliseconds.

But, in real world forums, I become a little quite man, sit on back, and just agree what forums did. Afraid to told what I want, my expression meets other expression felt so terrible for me. I couldn’t handle when some people talk in high tone. And then, I just shut up my mouth again, went back to my chair, agree whatever they said even I disagree.

PS: Sorry for my English.

getting drunk should do the trick

I’ve try it, and made me sleep. 😊

getting drunk should do the trick

Works for me, most people think im quite in the real world, except when im drunk.

I think we should give a real answer here.

Not realy related to this kind of forum though.

Most of the time confidence come within the quality of your work. When you feel confident about what you do, you get it easier to show your talent indeed.

Don’t be surprise man to see many many people talking out loud be realy quiet in real life, that is one problem, but on the long run, competence matters the most.

This is my two cent indeed.

good luck !

I don’t know how old you are, but gaining (and expressing) confidence is just a part of maturing. It’s also something you have to actively practice if it’s not coming naturally. I’m damn quiet myself. I went to SXSW 2008 for 4 days and didn’t say a single word to anyone the whole time (well, except the EllisLab guys). I don’t have a problem arguing or holding my own though. That always gets me talking (and typing 😊)

In case confirmation is necessary about “I don’t have a problem arguing or holding my own though. That always gets me talking (and typing smile)”—I’ll confirm this.  Hahahhaaahah. Pay back is sweet!  🧛

Just backing up my dear friend Colin 😉

Randy

- spent less time in the internet & more time in real-life
- training, training, training
- staying cool is the first rule
- staying cool is the second rule
- always think - before you talk
- take always care, what you are thinking - coz this is what you will say
- take care what you say, coz this is what you will do
- take care, what you are doing, coz this is, what will finally be YOU
- never argue, when you are “thinking” with your “cochones”
- trust your instincts more than your brain

Cheers.

“cochones” ?? Haha! :lol:

I think you mean “cojones.” I think..

@all :

wow, really really good tips for me.

Thanks, and i’ll try it all, also “drunk” :D

@Colin: did we get a chance to chat at sxsw?  I met 2 “Colin"s that are coming to mind, and I’m trying to put a face to a name.

@srobet: Its not for everyone, but my answer is completely sincere - take up a combat sport.  People of all shapes and sizes can learn from something like brazilian jiu jitsu or judo (people at my dojo range from ultra muscular to borderline morbidly obese) and if you’re more into striking you may enjoy boxing or muay thai.  Try to find something you enjoy.  The actual art is probably secondary as you start.

Confidence comes from being happy with yourself, or atleast with me it did. And female attention is always a confidence booster :D

Confidence comes from being happy with yourself, or atleast with me it did. And female attention is always a confidence booster :D

The second is slowly coming to me. lol. And again it does help, but then I have a long time left in my life of programming and real life.

To learn how to respond quickly you can try to develop a sense of humor. If you can make things funny by putting them in the wrong context just by listening to people and responding, you can do the same in debates. The best thing about humor is that you don’t have to be self confident, you can play the i’m stupid card. But if the humor is clever people will start to listen to you.
You have to find the little things that sting to build your response on.

Confidence comes from being happy with yourself, or atleast with me it did. And female attention is always a confidence booster :D

The second is slowly coming to me. lol. And again it does help, but then I have a long time left in my life of programming and real life.

I feel ya, my friend.

I still, considering averages of life expectancy for a male living in England (~65 years), have around 48 left to develop and publish an application.

-relaxed, chilled, cool-