I think the reality is that if you’re going to be managing your site’s content with a cms/database, you’re going to see a slower page load than you would with static pages. I don’t think there’s a way around it. I’ve developed sites with several web cms systems, including a $10,000 system, and they aren’t much different when it comes to this issue.
There have been some complaints in the past about EE’s page load time, but there are a LOT of things that you can do to optimize the speed. Just for starters, the “disable=” parameter. Here’s an EE Wiki article on optimization.
But there are dozens of factors that affect load times: server load balancing, javascript, images, connection speed, etc. You likely know this, but I think that all these things considered, EE is easily one of the best in its class and you DEFINITELY won’t go wrong if you choose it as your platform. Just have a look at some of the sites that run EE. It’s an impressive gallery.
Keep in mind that all cms systems can’t be ALL things to ALL people, but you get pretty damned close with EE, especially considering its cost. Massive value.
Hope this inspires some confidence.