Kaepora - I’m sorry you feel frustrated and are running into problems with custom fields.
At this point, how can we assist you? We have released a newer version of EE - EE2.1.4beta. While it is a beta, there are a number of fixed items.
See the following two pages in our bug tracker:
http://expressionengine.com/bug_tracker/list_2.x/Fixed for Next Release/
http://expressionengine.com/bug_tracker/list_2.x/Fixed in Beta/
Can you tell us which version/build of EE2.x you’re using? See EEWiki:// HowTo Determine My EE Version