Ok, so i looked at my error.log file and saw some errors which didn’t have anything to do with EE. I still fixed them to be sure. It didn’t help.
I’m about to give up since the SE friendlier URL isn’t officially supported by EE anyway (although it seems that they use it themself?)
To demonstrate it deep to the code what’s going on, this is from SSH:
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My server with the index.php and without the code in the htaccess:
lastst pid: 73554; load averages: 0.60, 0.64, 2.76
133 processes: 1 running, 129 sleeping, 3 zombie
CPU states: 3.9% user, 0.0% nice, 6.6% system, 0.0% interrupt, 89.5% idle
Mem: 818M Active, 212M Inact, 200M Wired, 86M Cache, 112M Buf, 678M Free
Swap: 4000M Total, 24K Used, 4000M Free
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My server without the index.php and with the code in the htaccess:
last pid: 74678; load averages: 9.23, 11.23, 7.54
192 processes: 3 running, 185 sleeping, 4 zombie
CPU states: 82.6% user, 0.0% nice, 15.5% system, 1.9% interrupt, 0.0% idle
Mem: 1116M Active, 222M Inact, 206M Wired, 86M Cache, 112M Buf, 365M Free
Swap: 4000M Total, 24K Used, 4000M Free
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I guess nobody can help me now anymore :-(